Long before Social Media, people found their tribes online through chat rooms, online forums and blogging. And while sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram all have their place in my life, blogging is still my first love… even if, as with my RL relationship, I don’t spend enough time doing it.
I THINK about it a lot though. Jeez, I’m a thinker. An over-thinker, really. Like other writers, I have a constant stream of dialogue running through my mind. Experiences, quotes, books, animals….everything seems to set off the typewriter in my head to rap-tap-tapping.
Social Media only exasperates this, and not in a good way. In fact, one of the things I enjoyed the most about my April FB hiatus was that the Voices in my head quieted to a gentle roar. They were silent, even, at times. I’m not sure I’d be back there now if it hadn’t been a requirement of my new Habitat For Humanity gig. In fact, I know I wouldn’t be. After I went through a wee bit of withdrawal, I absolutely loved the quiet.
Learning to ignore distractions has been an ongoing thing for me. My default, especially during stressful times, is to Check Out in some form or another. Back in the day, it was drugs, alcohol, sex and spending money. Oh, and a TON of romance novels – sometimes several a week. (Thank you, Nora Roberts!)
These days, checking out looks more like spending WAY too much time playing some silly game or cruising the Web (aptly named, I’ve always thought, for it’s tendency to snag and trap me).
It’s frightening how much time can be wasted checking email, checking all the Social Media outlets, playing this, You Tubing that. Before I know it, an entire morning is gone and I’ve gained what? A bit of mindlessness and a whole lot of crap in my head?
Time is SO precious! TOO precious to waste, especially on things and people who don’t matter in the long run.
Whether it’s patience, love, or focus, it seems the only way to master a thing is to be placed in situations where you have to practice it, over and over again – sometimes kicking and screaming. Forming good habits is like building muscle. Muscle takes time, persistence and resistance to grow (just ask my wings).
But before that, there has to be a desire to grow. A willingness to do what it takes. And, in my case, I have to acknowledge there
may be is a little problem.
A decade or so ago, using the Serenity Prayer and the 12-Steps helped me overcome the sex and drug addiction. The more things change, the more they stay the same, I guess, because today – rather than admit I’m powerless over substances – I really need to admit I have ADD: I am Addicted To Digital Distractions.
Like a person needing to overcome a food addiction while still able to eat in a healthy manner, I need help to overcome ADD and still be able to function in the Digital Age. I am, after all, a writer and in marketing. Social Media is an important tool in both fields.
It’s time for some real soul-searching. Time to uncover the WHAT of it all: What am I avoiding? What is the payoff for checking out? What am I giving up in order to do this? What I am afraid of?
And – most important of all – what do I need to do to silence the one Voice inside my head that is constantly nagging me to
WRITE THE DAMN BOOK ALREADY
Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful. And time is short.
– Adam Hochschild