I’m coming up on a very IMPORTANT anniversary!
The 10th anniversary of blogging here at Grace Upside Down, perhaps? Nope, although that did happen in September. (Where does the time go?)
Maybe my 20th wedding anniversary? Nah, not that either, although Home Boy and I celebrated that in September as well.
So what HUGE milestone am I getting ready to celebrate,then? Come closer and I’ll tell you.
In just over a month. I will celebrate 1 full year since…..
I kicked Facebook to the curb!
That’s right! After nearly a decade of socializing on perhaps the most important Social Media platform there is, I quit. Cold Turkey. And never looked back.
For the entirely of 2017 I have lived Facebook free and, man! I cannot emphasize enough what a positive difference I’ve experienced in the quality of my life – AND my relationships! (After a brief withdrawal and detox phase that lasted a couple of weeks…it IS a drug, dontchaknow?)
Ah, sweet relief!
Long gone the days when I agonized over why certain people didn’t like or comment on my posts any more, or whether I “had to” like or comment on someone else’s post. No more of the constant buzzing in my head…..you know, all the conversations (even rebuttals) I couldn’t (or shouldn’t) have. No more Unfollowing someone because they fell down some Rabbit Hole and started posting bizarre, regurgitated mythology they apparently thought they were the first to come up with it.
I no longer feel compelled to correct someones spelling/grammar/punctuation (not that I actually DID correct them. I just FELT like I had to…and stuffed my feelings), or comment with the name of the TRUE author of a quote that someone posted without it (a form of plagiarism that plagues online content and I find particularly abhorrent).
And, most importantly, no more Faux Friendships – many of who were identified AFTER I quit. (“You shall judge a tree by it’s fruit.” – Jesus)
Do I miss the sleepless nights and heartbreak incurred because someone got jealous of someone else I was interacting with online, or completely misunderstood something I posted and decided to take offense where none was meant?
Do I long for the days when I agonized over some cryptic post by one of the kids, in a moment of youthful angst, that threatened to send me in Hyper Hover Mother Mode. (The WORST)?
Ohhellno! My life in the Post-Facebook era is full of tranquility, authenticity and more real-life interaction with people than ever. I have great friendships, and closer ties with them and family alike.
Ahhhhh, the relief! Dear God, the relief of not worrying whether a photo is “Facebook worthy” or not…whether my double chin is showing, or if the muffin top I’ve acquired since menopause is exaggerated! How free to be with people without the knee jerk reaction of having to chronicle our every move for mass consumption! We actually just
LIVE OUR LIVES! DO OUR THING! And any photos we take are, by and large, for our own personal edification.
I am, I believe, Renaissance Woman. I spend less time online now than I can remember. My time at the computer is just a fraction of what it once was. I’m doing life Old School style, free from etheric tethers to what has, in recent years, become a behemoth of conflict and conspiracy, Russian “collusion” and the stifling of Free Speech, and WAY too many ads for things or ideas I could care less about.
Thank God Almighty, I am free at last!
Here are some interesting statistics about Fauxbook:
- There are 83 MILLION fake profiles. That is not a typo but it is a lot of deception.
- Turns out that Facebook is BAD for your relationships. In fact, a study done in 2010 showed “Facebook” was reported as being responsible in 30% of divorces. That’s 1 in 3, and this study is 7 years old now! Imagine what that statistic might be today!
- Not only are romantic relationships adversely effected, Facebook can be a friendship killer as well. I lost 2 long term, real time friendships because of something Facebook related. Did I insult them online? Did I post a death threat or a photo they didn’t want to be seen? Did I go suddenly crazy and become someone completely different , or reveal their deepest darkest secrets to all 350 of my closest friends? Nope. In fact, in BOTH cases, the women just bailed on me without explanation – unfriending me online AND in real life in the new chickenshit, cowardly, immature way of “dealing” that has infiltrated our society. And I’m not the only one to experience this. Three of my close girlfriends have as well…and we’re talking about 30 year relationships just GONE, just like that, over social media. All of us were left hurting, confused and bereft. Never again.
- Not only a source of jealously and infidelity, Facebook has been shown to cause depression, narcissism, anxiety, low self-esteem and a number of other mental health issues. If you’ve ever logged onto your Facebook account in a relatively good mood only to log off 30 minutes later feeling like shit, you know what I’m talking about. Just ask anyone who finds out their ex, only recently to have broken up with them via text message (another chickenshit move used these days), immediately started seeing his old flame. The one that always seemed to show up on his posts with some flirty thing to say. (This happened to my daughter). And don’t even get me started on a personal pet peeve of mine – the seemingly never ending Selfie Parade some people engage in. I mean, how many times do we have to see yet another fish-lipped, “I love myself! I’m so awesome!” post before we start asking, “Who are they trying to convince? Me or themselves?” Turns out posting too many of these photos is another big contributor to the Death of Friendship and intimacy – and it’s annoying as hell!
As Facebook (d)evolves over time…the more FB execs testify before Congress and are in news about their shady dealings (influencing in the 2016 election and censoring certain content, to name two), the happier I am that I’m not a part of it. I don’t belong there. My peeps are in real time, not virtual time. A day (finally) came when the Cons far outweighed the Pros (I speak for myself personally), and I had the will to say Good-bye forever.
Ever since I unfriended Facebook, my days are richer, more productive and peaceful, and involve more real-time friendtime than ever.
It’s been the BEST break-up I’ve ever had.